Wednesday, May 17, 2006

My Paradox concerning Hayfa wehbe:

I suppose my felings toward Hayfa Wehbe are the most complex to put into words. When this woman first appeared (before becoming an absolute sex symbol), I didn’t like her. When I first saw her video clip, I thought to myself: “it’s empty, no art in it, it’s all about the money and the looks”.

I didn’t expect it to be a success though. Only it was a huge success, people memorized the song, whether they tried or not. When Hayfa started making concerts, the whole picture shifted to unveiling of the ultimate sex symbol. At that time everyone started attacking her. I felt sorry for her, honestly. Not because she was suffering from the situation (she just didn’t care), but simply because the campaign against her was unjustified. She was not stripping. She was relying on her looks for success, and if there were no one to buy her looks then she wouldn’t have become such a success.

After this, she tried to portray herself as a very innocent person. She tried to look childish and fragile. Some people think that this is her attempt to wash away the shades of sexuality of her public picture. I think that was the obvious intention. But to say the truth, the real, and less obvious, intention was to increase the sexual doze of Hayfa Whebe. Think about it, society (and especially in our open minded, sweet orient) is sexist (wow I must have been so smart to have discovered that fact!). And there are 2 corner stones of sexuality in sexist societies:

  1. Virginity
  2. Male supremacy


By looking childish Hayfa Whebe is looking less sexually knowledgeable and she is looking less smart. I have seen relationships in this corner of the world. Girls are supposed to be younger than guys, they are supposed to be virgins and they are supposed to know sex only through the needs of there husbands.

It’s known that guys seek easy girls for the real pleasure and virgins for the real relationships. Having both in one package is a fantasy that’s where the childish Hayfa shows up!

Anyway, after my personal experiences in life I came to like Hayfa Wehbe. I still don’t listen to her songs (who listens anyway?). But in a way, she’s a slap in the face of all the weirdos that we call men. ALL men pretend “not to care that much for Hayfa” but let’s face it, the success of Hayfa and the immergence of others (like Ruby, and Maria, and that the other 2 but I don’t know there names) is a clear sign of how much people are paying to get a bit of Hayfa! I like the way she exposed there hypocrisy.

However, I think that Hayfa Whebe’s still as coward as all the others are, despite what many people think. Tae her last song for example: All the WAWA stuff are a clear indication for sexual contact. I know it, you know it, she knows it, we all know it. But she still insisting that it’s all in people’s heads, she’s still insisting that she’s singing a song for babies, or about them. That’s so coward! If she wants to sing it let her do so, I personally encourage that (it shows all the men all the sweet stuff they’re missing by forcing us all into virginity) but why hiding behind her own shadow.

My opinion’s of no importance, but hey! I’ll give it anyway. I don’t admire Hayfa Wehbe, because she wants it all and still being safe. She wants the future to portray her as the one who broke the Taboo but she wants to remain safe!

14 comments:

Faisal said...

I completely agree! Good analysis :)

Pazuzu said...

thanks

jokerman said...

very nicely written, but i think sometimes that when she claims to be singing to babaies, its that she does not want to ruin the fun, don't you think its part of the game, to deny what she is singing about when everything else suggests otherwise?
If she comes out & says yes, i was singing it with this & that in mind, even though everyone knows it, i feel they don't want her to admit it.
Sexist societies are racist & prejudiced.

Maxxed`ouT said...

hey nicely put
one thing caught my eye tho

"(it shows all the men all the sweet stuff they’re missing by forcing us all into virginity)"

well i dunno about ur background .. you could be mariied with children for all i know !
but if you abide to rules that you do not believe in , isn't that hypocracy ? doesn't it make you a push-over ?!

and just for the official record : i hate Hayfa's guts .
She just doesn't do it for me .

Leilouta said...

"Girls are supposed to be younger than guys, they are supposed to be virgins "
........they are supposed to be stupid, they are supposed to be to delicate and karnenet etc.

Pazuzu said...

Jokerman:
I totally agree, she's doing whatever it takes to get what she wants, none can deny her that, because she's forcing no one to what or pay for her stuff, it's there choice and there responsibility. That point is of no concern to me, my problem with her, is that she's simply not a "revolutionnist, not a taboo breaker, she's just one of this society participating (via her interests) in the perpetuity of the
injust social standards. I am not demanding her to fight society or anything, but I find in her nothing that makes me admire her.

Pazuzu said...

Jokerman:
I totally agree, she's doing whatever it takes to get what she wants, none can deny her that, because she's forcing no one to what or pay for her stuff, it's there choice and there responsibility. That point is of no concern to me, my problem with her, is that she's simply not a "revolutionnist, not a taboo breaker, she's just one of this society participating (via her interests) in the perpetuity of the
injust social standards. I am not demanding her to fight society or anything, but I find in her nothing that makes me admire her.

Maxxed:
I believe that we should do things our own way, simply because that's essential for ones well being. But not all confrontations with social standards provide well being. Call me a humanist if you like but when it comes to choosing between declaring what I believe is right and my well being, I'd choose the second.
However when I wrote the sentence you were interested in I meant it in a different context. I am specifically speaking about the kind of guys that go on promulgating there attachment to social standards, while they are secretly obsessed with nudity or sexual behavior. I might be open with some people in my surroundings about my sexuality but with "that" sort of guys, I'd never open up. And I believe that all sexually active women in the middle east do so too, in order to preserve there value in this place of the world. That's the sort of deprivation I was talking about.

leilouta:
yes... if we want to name it all it'd take us eternity ;-)
BTW what's karnenet? hihi

Leilouta said...

خرنانات = يخرنونو برشة
Oups..I don't think that helps heih? :)

Pazuzu said...

Um no it didn't really help alot :P

Hannah said...

Nicely written, though i must add that this new "Wa wa" clip annoyned me, yeah shes a sex simbol 3ala 3eeneh o rasi , but hey when ur bring "sexy" leave childran out. 3an jed, childran are far away from "sexy" i think babies are just about holy , they shouldnt be in such clips. all that chocolate on her mouth and she nealy kissing him? whats that about, C'mon!
anyways i liked ur writting, it kept me reading.
-Hannah.

Hannah said...

Nicely written, though i must add that this new "Wa wa" clip annoyned me, yeah shes a sex simbol 3ala 3eeneh o rasi , but hey when ur bring "sexy" leave childran out. 3an jed, childran are far away from "sexy" i think babies are just about holy , they shouldnt be in such clips. all that chocolate on her mouth and she nealy kissing him? whats that about, C'mon!
anyways i liked ur writting, it kept me reading.
-Hannah.

saray09 said...

If only i can just go up to her face and say.. You are boring...all her clips are about the same thing.. " her" ... SHE IS ANNOYING! i think she is trying too hard.... her only fans are bunch of old need to get laid men... thats my opinion..
somebody boycott her and dana off the music industry.. PLZ!

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